Everly Birth | Amarillo Birth Photographer
A couples heartbreaking journey from the loss of their baby to IVF find a rainbow through the storm with their 4th of July baby, Amarillo Photographer Brit Nicole Photography arrived just in time at 11:30 PM on July 3rd. I want to give a huge thanks to Dr. Lindstorm with Panhandle OBGYN. He was the coolest Doctor I have come across in all my years of photographing at BSA.
Here is the couple’s story
“We started dating in October 2013 and married in April 2014. After knowing each other for 2 years we started dating and wanted to start a family together. In March 2014 our journey of having a baby began. Little did we know it wasn’t going to be sunshine and rainbows. We conceived a baby from in-home insemination. At our 20-week Dr. Appointment, we learned that we were expected a baby girl but also found out she had some abnormalities. After seeing a specialist at Texas Tech and another in Dallas Tx we learned that she had a heart defect and hydrocephalus. We were told that she would require a shunt when she was born and would also be delayed. We were okay with it we would do whatever was needed to get her home. Unfortunately, our plan took a left turn. On November 1, 2014, at just 34 weeks our baby girl Genesis was born and immediately was placed on life support. Her health was not improving so we had to make a tough and hurtful decision to remove her off life support and she passed away minutes after; peacefully in our arms. Our hearts were broken as we had to lay our baby to rest. After grieving our angel baby, we decided we couldn’t give up on having another baby.
In January 2015 we began trying in-home inseminations month after month with no success. We then decided to take another route and spoke to our OBGYN to start something a little more aggressive. He placed Sara on Clomid and tried 4-5 rounds via inseminations in his clinic. We still had no success. This journey was becoming very stressful physically, financially and emotionally but we still did not give up. We began researching information about IVF and we thought it would be impossible to go through with IVF. IVF was outrageous and we only saw celebrities doing IVF. We thought only wealthy people could afford such treatment. After doing research we found a clinic in Bedford Tx that we decided to give a try. We went in for a consult and decided we would go through with it. We were going to do IVF, but we would use my embryos and Sara would carry so our baby could be a part of us both. I started taking injections daily and medications to stimulate my ovaries to produce eggs. Sara started talking progesterone injections and other medications to prepare her body for an embryo transfer. After about 11 days of injections, I went through an egg retrieval to extract all the produced eggs to inject them with donor sperm to create an embryo to transfer. We collected about 19 eggs but out of those about 9 were mature and the rest did not survive the process. We transferred one embryo and got pregnant unfortunately Sara’s body rejected it causing a miscarriage at 8 weeks old. We had 6 transfers over a period of a year that all ended in chemical pregnancies. We had 2 more embryos left. During that year of treatment, we traveled to Dallas Tx over 25 times. We felt defeated we did not know what else to do. That round of IVF itself was about $40,000 not including travel expenses.
Around February 2016 we began trying at home again but still no success. We did research and found another clinic in Fort Worth Tx, Forth Worth fertility with Dr. Kaufmann. We started seeing the doctor there and he ran more extensive tests and that was when we found out Saras NKC (Natural Killer Cells) were elevated which were causing the miscarriages. Her body kept viewing the embryos as foreign objects and attacking them. She had to start taking IV medication to try to prevent that from happening. We decided to transfer our embryos from the other clinic to this new clinic. We did an embryo transfer of both embryos that were remaining. The transfer was yet again unsuccessful. We decided to take a break and just go back to IUI ‘s with our OBGYN in Amarillo due to the cost factor. Before starting another round of IVF we found another clinic in New York, CNY Fertility with Dr. Ditkoff. We did some research and followed their page on Facebook. The price was a fraction of the cost of the other clinics and the pregnancy rate was higher. We were skeptical at first. It seemed too good to be true but we gave it a chance. I gave them a call and set up an appointment for a phone consult. The earliest they had open was 6 months out. We didn’t know if we wanted to wait that long. After a month they called with a sooner appointment. After about 2 weeks we had our appointment and came up with a plan and started the treatment the following month. We started the daily injections and medications again. After 14 days we flew out to Albany New York for egg retrieval. We stayed in New York for 11 days. We did egg retrieval and egg transfer while we were there. This time we were allowed to transfer two embryos because of the history we had. The day after the transfer we flew back home and waited the 14 days to see if we were pregnant. Two weeks later we took a home pregnancy test and it was positive we were excited but we didn’t want to get our hopes up. The following day we did blood work to check for HCG and it was positive. About 3 weeks later we had our first sonogram appointment and we found out we were pregnant with twins. We were so happy we could not believe it. Double the blessing. After Thanksgiving 2018 Sara woke up in a puddle of blood, we were saddened we thought she miscarried both babies. We went into the ER and both babies had heartbeats and it seemed fine. Two days later we went in for a checkup and one baby did not have a heartbeat but the other was still striving. We were crushed about the loss of one baby but we were still happy we still had the other. Every appointment made us nervous we were afraid of bad news. Every appointment was always good news we were excited and believed this time it was for us.
After countless injections, medications, medical trips, tears and heartbreaks on July 4, 2019, we welcomed our rainbow baby Everly IV Magallanes (IV just as it sounds). She was born striving at 37 weeks 3 days. She was born weighing 5 pounds 14 oz 18 inches long. She is healthy as can be. We feel so blessed and often wonder how we deserved a baby as perfect as her. She definitely loves her mommies and her mommies love her very much.
A message from us to those parents who are struggling to conceive don’t give up, be persistent, and be patient. Every day that you try is a day closer to your baby. It definitely isn’t easy but it’s worth it. “When you can’t see what God is doing, you can trust that his heart for you is to give his very best to you. Your wait is temporary and what’s waiting for you at the end will be worth it” -Sarah Rollandini.”